The Truth About Transitioning from 3 to 4 Kids

I’ve had several people ask me how the transition is from 3 to 4 kids. The truth is, I don’t think there is a simple answer to this question.

Before I became pregnant with Abel a read an article “Mom survey says: Three is the most stressful number of kids” so when I became pregnant with number 4 I hoped that it would be an easy transition. It wasn’t.

The switch from 2 to 3 kids wasn’t terrible but it was still a transition.

In all honesty, I’m finding this transition from 3 to 4 kids to be almost as difficult as 0 to 1 (which I think was the hardest). But before you decide that 4 kids is too many for your family let me remind you that I can only speak for my experience. And the main reason I think this transition has been the hardest for me is the age difference of my children. If the boys had been a little older I might have a different opinion but as it were having 4 small children is tough. A 6 year old (who is somewhat independent but still needs guidance), a 3 year old and 2 year old (both of whom still need a lot of attention and help) and a newborn has proven to be a challenge for me. Add in our unexpected homeschool adventure, potty training, switching cribs for beds and so on… life has been pretty crazy the past few months.

I love my 4 boys and because they are all so close in age they are quickly becoming best friends but this transitional phase has been tough. We knew it would be a challenge and thankfully were able to hire a mother’s helper for a short while. The past few months we’ve been in survival mode. Eventually, we’ll find a rhythm that work and our family will thrive instead of just survive.

Tell me, if you have multiple children do you think certain transitions were easier than others?