Things better left unsaid… untyped.
I’m a supporter of open and honest blogging but there are few things I think should be avoided by any blogger. Well, maybe not avoided but understood to be in poor taste. Primarily, I’m referring to bad mouthing your spouse online. (I guess this could apply not only to bloggers but tweeters, facebook users, general users of the internet, etc…)
There is nothing I despise more than reading someone’s blog post or tweet about how horrible or loser-ish their husband is. By no means do I have the perfect marriage but I’d like to think I have a pretty good understanding of how relationships work. And typically, gossip and slander don’t build healthy relationship, for anyone.
I try to refrain from talking bad about anyone via my blog, but I use extra caution when writing about my husband. On occasion he may review a product or I may share a funny story involving him but I hope I never portray him in a negative light. That’s not to say we don’t have our fair share of arguments and issues, I just find it disrespectful and inappropriate to share our problems with the world wide web.
I mean I get it, sometimes you need to vent and it’s nice to know a group of unknown ladies have “got your back”. But what real purpose does it serve to trash talk your spouse in a blog post? If he reads your blog, it most certainly is not going to help resolve the situation. If he doesn’t even know what a blog is, it’s still destructive to your marriage.
When I blog or even talk to my girlfriends about Joe I tried to imagine him there, reading or listening to my words and ask myself… Are these words of encouragement or destruction? Would I want him to say these things about me? Would I want our friends, family members and co-workers to hear this? And to be honest in some conversation I misstep and say inappropriate things but with blogging you have the opportunity to edit and even delete your thoughts.
If you really want your marriage to work you will guard it and protect it… even from bloggers.
It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains your love.
– Dietrich Bonhoeffer
