Comments on: Jude’s Black Eye and What Should Have Been My Reaction. https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/09/judes-black-eye-and-what-should-have-been-my-reaction.html Parenting• Technology • Travel Fri, 13 Sep 2013 15:25:51 +0000 hourly 1 By: jessicalieb https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/09/judes-black-eye-and-what-should-have-been-my-reaction.html/comment-page-1#comment-84016 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=20938#comment-84016 In reply to Suzi Satterfield.

Suzi I think that is why I didn’t say anything. Usually I’m on the other end, Jude is a very active and touchy child but is never malicious about it. He’s never intentionally hit a child out of aggression it’s usually just he isn’t aware of his own space. However, this kid was definitely aggressive and intentionally hurt my child. I sensed that this mom was not really concerned with anyone, my child or hers. In all honesty, I felt bad for her son even after he hurt mine.

But I totally understand being the other mom, which is maybe why I didn’t react so harshly.

]]> By: Suzi Satterfield https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/09/judes-black-eye-and-what-should-have-been-my-reaction.html/comment-page-1#comment-84014 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=20938#comment-84014 Having been the mom to “that kid” (the one who is disruptive, the one who is making funny faces during the Christmas pageant… but not violent), she knows. She knows and worries every time she gives him an inch that she’s going to take a mile. She knows that if she apologizes or has her son apologize, there’s a good chance that she’s going to be berated and feel like a crappy parent who can’t control her kid. She knows that she’s more likely to get condemnation than anything else… even if it’s only condemnation in her own mind. So she leaves, hoping to avoid the situation, hoping to teach her son better, and still wondering if there’s any point… and wondering if it’s her fault.

It sucks to be her. Really.

]]> By: Ashley https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/09/judes-black-eye-and-what-should-have-been-my-reaction.html/comment-page-1#comment-84013 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=20938#comment-84013 This is new territory for me too. I don’t know how I would have handled or, it “should” have. Don’t beat yourself up for not saying anything. The bottom line is you did what was best for Jude and tended to him when he was hurt. I could feel my blood boiling for you while reading this. Like instant “mama bear” could have come out, but I probably wouldn’t have said anything either. What good would have come from it? If the mom of the other boy rushed in, she’s probably already aware of her son’s aggression. Yes, she should have apologized, but don’t second guess yourself. Sometimes not every situation is a “teaching/learning time.” You’re a great mom. I hope that bruise heals soon!

]]> By: Monique Eckert https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/09/judes-black-eye-and-what-should-have-been-my-reaction.html/comment-page-1#comment-84009 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=20938#comment-84009 Our son keeps getting bit in the church nursery, he is 18 months old. I feel bad for the other parents but we don’t want to subject our son to repetitive biting either. Needless to say we haven’t been back since the second bite over a month ago.

]]> By: Jessica https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/09/judes-black-eye-and-what-should-have-been-my-reaction.html/comment-page-1#comment-84008 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=20938#comment-84008 I am not sure how I would have handled it. Like Sarah, I make my son go apologize for even a little shove and depending upon if there were warnings or the degree of intentionality or lack thereof he may even have to sit out for a while or I tell him play time is over making sure the other mom is hearing that my son is receiving consequences. I have not had something happen so intentional like punching, but I have spoke loudly so that the other mom could over hear if something happened to my son and in most cases they march their son over to apologize at that point or they come over and ask if their son did something and then make them apologize.

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