Comments on: The transition from 2 to 3 kids https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/03/the-transition-from-2-to-3-kids.html Parenting• Technology • Travel Sat, 24 Nov 2018 23:07:31 +0000 hourly 1 By: Samantha https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/03/the-transition-from-2-to-3-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-429054 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=19295#comment-429054 0-1 … omg it was a BREEZE. My husband and I wondered what all the fuss was about! Was our baby a bit colicy at times yet. Did he fight sleep (like no tomorrow!). But we were in love with it all. We were already home bodies so it didn’t change our social life. We already loved disney movies, so an excuse to watch them in theatres was welcomed. We were over the moon! We knew within moments of him being born that our plan for 3 was totally still a go and how fast can we do this again!?
1-2…. Oh… MY… GOD. My second baby – he’s just the sweetest little thing ever. He’s not as compassionate or empathetic as his older brother… but he’s easy, he’s got a smile that can lift your whole world. he’s amazing. He didn’t sleep through the night at all his whole first year (fell asleep with the snap of your fingers though). But the trouble was my eldest son had SEVERE terrible twos, torturous threes and he acted out his jealousy in completely asymptomatic ways. They are just shy of 2.5 years apart. If this is the stress people go through when they are adjusting to 0-1 I now understand why the whining.
2-3…. not there yet. We’re still on board with trying for our 3rd. We question our sanity multiple times a day. I may go insane before all 3 kids are in kindergarten…

I’ve really clung to the sentence – “I was a perfect mother before I had kids”. But I think the real reason why is that you don’t understand how much of you whole being cares for that kid until your a mom. Example of this LOVING mother’s thoughts: “Should I give him that cookie? He’s been so good he deserves a little treat….. But holy cow the sugar……. But if you don’t give him some now in moderation how will he cope as an adult…… If he has improper feelings with food could that ruin his relationships…… Oh my I’m so stressed – *eat the cookie you were going to give to the kid, then makes 2 dozen more cookies out of guilt because you ate the last cookie*” OKAY Extreme but you get my point. If you feel like your failing – it’s because you care soooo much you see the flaws. And if you care THAT much – you must be doing something right.

]]> By: Sarah Arnett https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/03/the-transition-from-2-to-3-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-360075 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=19295#comment-360075 I am currently pregnant with my 3rd baby girl. My oldest is 5 & my second girl is 18mos. I am 13 weeks and reality still hasn’t set in. And when I do begin to think about life with a third child, I can’t stop crying. I am completely overwhelmed. My fiance is a wonderful man and helps when he can, but he’s hardly home. I know I’m not a perfect mother, but I do everything I can for my kids and I try to be as selfless as possible. It just seems like after having my 3rd, I will no longer get that “me” time that I so desperately need as it is. I know that sounds selfish, by I am so worried and hate feeling this way. I am so detached from this pregnancy and I hope things change soon. .

]]> By: Carolyn https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/03/the-transition-from-2-to-3-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-355891 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=19295#comment-355891 My first he was an almost perfect baby, only cried when he was tired. 1-2 my idea was wow I can totally do this again! It wasn’t till #2 was 6 months old it started going downhill!! My boys are 25 months apart, at 2 1/2 sharing is not quite on the learnt skills yet and the baby would get into his toys. (Where the fighting begins) My oldest didn’t show it but somewhere In there he did have some jealousy that came out in regression with toileting. He’s 4 now and still had some issues. Nap time ended with my oldest 2 months after the baby was born. Napping when baby naps was something I truly took for granted with only 1. It never happened. Paw patrol and bubble guppies did spare me 20 mins laying on the couch with him tho!
They are 2 and 4 now and the fighting and yelling and beating on one another feels as if it will never end! I do feel as if I did fail though. . But! I am working on it. With my oldest I didn’t have time to work with him to help manage his frustration so he freaks out over the smallest things and my youngest has started doing the same.
I feel only now I’m starting to get the hang of everything. And have started thinking of adding a 3rd. . So there is light! Lol

]]> By: Chantal https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/03/the-transition-from-2-to-3-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-353570 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=19295#comment-353570 I did a Pinterest search for “third baby” and this came up! We just found out about the third (yay) and I’m nervous! My daughter will be 5 but my son only 20-21 months. Eep. I know plenty of people have survived so I can too, right?

]]> By: Bree https://bhonestmedia.com/2013/03/the-transition-from-2-to-3-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-278250 http://thebkeepsushonest.com/?p=19295#comment-278250 I am pregnant with my third and unfortunately I have been a single mom longer than I was a married mom. (Even when I was married, my husband was hardly attentive, so I felt like a single mom that whole time anyway.) Now, I’m pregnant with my third with my new husband and I’m terrified for the change! He’s a million times better than my first husband, in terms of the helps he gives, but this is also his first time being a parent. For me, going from 0-1 and then 1-2 wasn’t so bad, but now going from 2-3 seems scary. Here’s to hoping all goes well! (Clink, with my apple juice in a wine glass)
I’m grateful for the advice on here. It does give me a little hope that I can actually do this. Thanks ladies!

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